Saturday, November 19, 2005

You Have the Power: a Challenge

I'm in the library pretending to do work. Pretending being the operative word in that sentence as I am clearly actually blogging and not writing a paper on human rights violations. Ahh well.

So, since I've found my merry way to Blogger, I just wanted to share a not-so-deep thought: acknowledgement and praise can sometimes make all the difference. It's nice to be told you did good when you did in fact do good in whatever sense. When you work hard at something, it's nice to know that someone noticed. And, sure, it may be stupid to get super happy by a little comment or e-mail or IM, but it does matter.

I don't mind giving my heart and soul to a certain extra curricular I am a part of. I don't mind the late, late nights and the sleep deprivation. I actually love it (in some strange way). But you know what? It makes all the difference that I got an e-mail today saying thank you and saying that my work mattered. It made me feel a whole lot better about the fact that when I went to sleep at 1 a.m. last night I realized that I had only slept two of the previous 40 hours. It made me feel good about my contribution. It made me feel appreciated.

So, in conclusion (before I return to the black hole of Butler Library), we all have the power to make someone feel better. Give a compliment. Tell someone something nice. Acknowledge someone's hard work. Because you can.

8 Comments:

At 11/19/05, 6:57 PM, Blogger Stx said...

[compliment] Good post. [/compliment]

 
At 11/19/05, 7:55 PM, Anonymous K D said...

However much I have no idea what you are talking about of your situation, I know we all need our praise and compliments (and comments!) I totally know how you feel about putting in the hours and feeling dejected when no one else recognizes it. Just remember, He knows how hard you work and will repay you. (and we love reading your blog, even if we don't always comment.)
Don't work too hard though, or you'll have no time to blog!

 
At 11/20/05, 7:11 PM, Blogger Devorah said...

Apparently Stx is inventing her own coding language...recovering CS majors, whaddya expect...

 
At 11/20/05, 7:17 PM, Blogger Frum Singles said...

Your parents spent so much time and energy in raising you from infancy through grade school and high school spending tons of $$$$$ on you to satisfy all your whims. Have you ever expressed proper gratitude to your parents?

Hashem has given you good health and intelligence etc. Have you properly thanked him on a regular basis?

Your comment reminds me of the attitude I observed from the snobby kids at Yale who were self centered and believed that people have to bow down to them. Sorry for the harsh language, but it appears that you have adopted the mindset of the snotty kids at Columbia. A true bas yisroel would be makir tov for the opportunitys presented to her "on a silver platter" instead of griping.

If you want to spend time in Butler, try to hunt down some of Luzzato's works. You may actually grow from them instead of wasting time reading some stupid literature.

 
At 11/21/05, 4:25 AM, Blogger Stx said...

Devorah - I deserved that. I just tried giving someone CMSC 201 help one night last week. I TOLD her I was the wrong person to call...

 
At 11/21/05, 4:43 AM, Blogger Masmida said...

Frum Single - perhaps if we follow eli7's line of reasoning here the appropriate response might have been:

(thought) hmmm... she's being to expand her horizons and recognize that other's may in fact feel unrecognized- must encourage this (end thought)

(comment)Yeah, we all need acknowlegdement, and thank yous. How about this: Think about one person who's done something important to you and call them up and thank them with details. Repeat daily. (end comment)

But if you really think eli7 is some sort of self-absorbed JAP, then enjoy the fact she's growing and if you don't.... why say she is?

(thanks eli7 for the post)

 
At 11/21/05, 8:26 AM, Blogger Eli7 said...

Frum Single, I may be a Columbia snob but I don't think that wanting recognition for going above and beyond my duty is snobby. I don't think it's snobby to want to be appreciated when you work hard. It's human.

Of course, there are a million people who deserve my gratitude and of course I should be better at showing it to them, but recognizing how much that acknowledgment means, even in my self-centered way, is a step toward that, not away from it.

(And, incidentally, I am not an English major and thus don't read any literature in Butler, but I actually value my education and I don't think it's stupid. There is chochma b'goyim and it would do you good to recognize that.)

 
At 12/3/05, 6:17 PM, Blogger Devorah said...

Stx - inventing new languages (but not making them functional by building compilers like in the good ol' days) is how we cope when we suddenly miss coding.
OK, maybe that's just me and the other CS majors who have abandoned the fold...

 

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